Monday, May 5, 2014

Hi All,

After a long time again, hope you all are fine.

I'm going to write what I came across few months back while I visited a Meditation Center namely Brahma Kumaris in India. Along with a friend I had good experiences which I'm going to share with you.

Today most of the problems in relationships occur due to the common 'expectation' we have for the other person. The other person can be your husband/ wife/ boyfriend/ girlfriend/ parent/ friend/ sister/ brother. Anyone close.
Sadly, with those we are close and ironically that too, we shouldn't be expecting much. You might relate to quotes you see like 'Expect little, give much' and so on. Well, its true. A relationship is formed in the mind.
Ask me how? I tell you.

Read carefully, a relationship is something which is 'formed' when two people 'give'. I give, you give. It's that simple and its formed. Then attachment happens and slowly you share things with the other person.
Now to maintain the relationship it is very vital to remember that you should concentrate on giving without expecting much.

Sit back and think about it. When was the last time you selflessly did something for the one you love and they appreciated? How did that make you feel?

Now you might have negative thoughts creeping in like 'Oh I did so much but i got very little' or something like 'I'm disappointed'. Ask yourself why?!

Let me tell you, if the relationship you are relating to right now while you are reading this is about 'love', then love is supposed to be completely unconditional. Unconditional acceptance of the other person.

If you are facing problems in your relationship try the method of being more loving and caring no matter what you receive from the other end. Have patience, keep faith. This unconditional love has the power to get the person back into your life or solve the problems now or in the future.

Love is within us, its our very core with which we are made. We are human 'beings' after all. Aren't we supposed to be better than animals who just reproduce but not socialize?!

Similarly, a human being is supposed to give, the other will give too. If however you think that you have given enough positive energy to the other person and it is simply not working then maybe you can go back in time and ask those questions of what went wrong. Somewhere it is our fault that we do not recognize or are too 'egoistic' to accept our mistake.

Keeping a relationship healthy is very simple:

Step 1. Be Positive.

Step 2. Remember to give and to share.

Step 3.Trust wholeheartedly, no matter what. If they betray, accept it as your choice to trust, do not blame them.

Step 4. Don't try to change the person as that means we are Not accepting him or her. If we don't accept, we are sending negative vibes which leads to more misunderstandings.

Step 5. Accept yourself as you are and concentrate on being more loving and caring.

May Peace be with you.